I Hate My Children as Adults

 Un-Ideal Parenting Series

I HATE MY CHILDREN AS ADULTS

Season 1, Episode 3 • 18m


Manage Your Expectations

Accept your child for who they are, and you can move toward a better relationship. If your child is different than your expectations, then manage those expectations.


Remember, ultimately, the only person you can control is you. Learn to find the space between your child’s action and your reaction. It is here that you can learn to be a calm parent and stay emotionally separate. No matter how your child acts, promise yourself you’ll try to remain calm.

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